Re: Very Odd wantings

again / it is normal to ahve those hormonal and emotional desires when youare youn g and in childrearin gyears esp.
the thing to do tho/ is balance it down to reality.
do you have a mate that is helpful and wants more kids also and is willing to participate financially and physically in the childrearing aspects.
do you relaly have the energy and finances to give each of the kids you have now a good stable upbringing/ attention/support etc.. and continue doing so if you tak eon anohter 18 plus year commitment to another child?
are you in good enought health to handle the extra stress of pg and child delivery and the early 1 st 2 years high energy out put needed without risking burn out?
if your answers toall of these are yes then make a plan some what with your husband to get in teh best health youcan and tkae steps to pursue it/ ifnot ... be honest that it may jstu be you like feeling needed and the feelin gof satisfaction youget form beign a mom... but you will not be a mom like youare now if you do your job right/ they will grow inot self independent young adults..
then where will you be? i hope youare findign an outlet to keep your own inner identity intact/ the best thign youcan do for your kids is be a person .. notjsut a mommy caregiver. what do youdo for your self?
if youare not nourishing you own identity you will have a faaar harder time later making the transition.
take up a painting class once a month even soemthing..
and youcan always babysit or throw childrens parties etc to fulfil alot of thsoe same needs with out the full responsibility/ how about a valounteer at an orphanage? etc
or a teachers assistent at a school for younger kids?
evenas jsut a substitute assist migth help meet your need ans carry on after your kids are no longer so dependent on you ? the nursery at a church or a local gym etc...
an arts and crafts program after school as a helper/
youget my dirft
a bookreader in childrens section at the library
Ami B. Tweet