I was not speaking to anyone in particular - that part of my post was simply referring to the fact that most people carry at least some fear and/or hatred in their hearts, relating to something. A lot of the time the hatred is the hatred of self. But anyways, I believe in confronting these kinds of feelings and giving them to God - letting go of them, and moving into a place of grace and love. Repentence is key. The biblical definition of repentence is "to change one's mind".