Charity will often be performed for selfish reasons, such as ego and self-esteem, not always because you are genuinely concerned about THE WELFARE OF YOUR FELLOW HUMAN BEING. It is the MOTIVE that you do something that makes the difference of whether you are acting in LOVE or for "SELF". If you feel SORROW that the other person must endure their misfortune, then you have learned COMPASSION, and THAT is the right attitude that God wants us to know.