"i think that somewhere along the line we forgot how to be normal. somthing we learned as children that worked we forgot."
LOL, this is so true!
I wouldnt bother with letting your lips go longer, I actually have done the same thing. I would keep telling myself "Maybe I didnt leave my lips alone long enough, or maybe I did 'X' thing wrong and thats why they didnt heal? Or, what if I tried leaving them alone even longer this time, would they heal then?" Well, I have actually done these things, always getting the exact same results over and over again, eventually stopping the 'leaving my lips alone thing' because it clearly was not working. I can openly say that I was insane in that respect :)