thanks for the encouraging reply and advice. It is much appreciated. I realise beating herpes means changing your lifestyle and incorporating new habits. I do realise that I am better off because of my awareness of health being an emotional and physical thing.
Yes, it was painful at first but apart from the odd angry day it's getting better, and my anger is devoted to the unfortunatesituation rather than my wife her ex boyfriend who played around.
My sitiation was put into perspective when I found and read a website called 'share you story' where there are many unfortunate young women with this problem. Many who feel that they have no control over it and no romantic future.
All I can say is god bless the internet. I went in a random chain of surfing from drunvalo melchizidek to Hulda Clark to T-zapper to Hulda claks herbs to Curezone.com. The frightening thing was I had to be abstract to get here. a simple search for herpes brings up the seemingly well meaning sites whose ineffectual and expensive cures I have tried and listed in my first posting ( above).
If other sufferers have such a marginal chance of finding curezone which is the most comprehensive and impartial source on health cures, it is indeed sad.
thanks for your well wishes. things WILL turn out well!