I am more than lost. I have been caregiver to my mom, in her 80's, for many many years and because of that have lost my career, half of my teeth, my health, my sanity, etc. and now could even loose my home. She is blind and has dementia, possibly alzheimers-who knows, and heart failure and Arthritis and gout and on and on....now they tell me she has a large gallstone and jaundice and have referred us to a surgeon after getting a catscan.
Been reading here for days and i still do not know what to do. Of course the doctors are of no help and don't even call back and are not even there to answer my questions or concerns.
I don't know if mom can understand well enough to know whether she should get the surgery or not and I don't think i know either. I have started feeding her on apple juice and oatmeal and apples if she will eat them and tea with lots of lemon, some grapefuit juice etc, and other than that plan to keep it pretty bland for a few days while i try to decide if using the olive oil is prudent or dangerous to her. I cannot get her out of bed, but that is not really new, it has been going on for years. She may have alzheimers, i dunno, had a brainscan a month and a half ago and still they have told me nothing at all. When ever i try to find some case management help to do things like help me find answers to anything at all, all they do is call an investigator and try to place mom in a nursing home-this has happened three times and it is most frightening and degrading as i work for nothing at this unpaid job and have done the very best I can alone with no help from anyone of any kind.
Now the same doctors that feed her vixox and landed her in the hospital with heart failure a few years ago this month want to cut out her gallbladder without even showing me the pictures or explaining why first. I am frightened if i start trying to do a flush i can cause some more damage, but i know also that mom will not tolerate surgery well and may not even be able to come home if i give them the go ahead. But things here are already damned complicated and one of the few joys mom seems to have in life is going out to eat, which of course would be over with if she had the surgery i guess. So, like I said, I have started trying to detox her a little with the apple juice diet-she is still not eating much, figuring that could do little harm, but i am more than frightened to know what the next step should be.
I certainly do not want to hurt my mom any more than she has already been hurt, but with the liver and cognitive problems that go along with this the surgery would be dangerous too. I even swallowed a small glass of olive oil myself last night and am on the apple juice as an experimentation. But i am afraid to risk my own mom's life. I think her jaundice is getting better but it is hard to tell since she seldom gets out of bed at all without an extreme struggle. I am also out of sheets, so i better go now, the gall bladder attack coincided with another urinary infection so she is peeing and crapping all over the place and getting her to shower has been a struggle for years now. If anyone has ever been in a similar situation and has any prudent advice PLEASE help.