if you have an affair with your wife... not only will your wife hate you, but your kids will hate you, or your kids will think its normal to have divorces. im sure some parts of the day your wife is a mother to these kids. and if you go out and find someone else they will see that you are causing it some how some way.
what you need to tell your kids is " kids, your moms angree, its not right to be angree and she doesnt know how to handle her anger other than to take it out on us" " lets just love your mom and maybe we can love that "hell" out of her"
your wife will come around if she sees love there. shes "testing" you so to speak and all she is finding is hate. so now that will justify here means to get upset with you and it will confirm her that... yes he and all the other men i have been with are really scum... i knew it. but she needs love. and she will slowly get out of bed and start being more friendly and it will be one of the most beuitfull things to witness.
so you can see by them last 2 paragraphs that your just through logs on the fire and providing here with the resentment she needs to stay angree. so dont get upset with your wife anymore. no matter how hard she "tests" you. dont react to her reactions. "through more wood on the fire".
your kids dont need counsling and neither do you. counslers will just tell you what you thnk you want to hear. "so to speak"
just lell your kids " kids i was wrong, i didnt realize that i was apart of your moms anger and i need your help with somehting" and tell them no matter what she does dont hate her. she doesnt know shes doing it. but we can get here to see that shes doing it and fix her up by not getting upset with her. "did you know you can love the hell out of someone?" thats what you need to do.
i sent you an email on this topic just disregard that email i didnt read thorugh the whole forums. take care. you know what you need to do now. so start right now.