being love is being righteous. its having the same set of rules for others as we have for ourselves.
there are two ways a person can be righteous. the best way is to love everyone - treat them the way we want to be treated. but there is another way which is just. and that is treating others the way they treat us. its righteous but it is its own reward. it is better to love them and let god handle it. vengeance is the lords. he will recompense.
so thats how none of these people are showing love. i can only speak for my own situation. they neither treat me the way i treat them nor do they treat me the way they want to be treated.