Re: its a cult
I am blessed with a fairly good memory considering I'm a 'wrinkly', although I too don't recall the precise context. I think we were doing battle with a JW at the time, but don't hold me to that.
I can't say I've followed all the subthreads closely enough to understand the basis of tomi's complaint against you. He seems prone to these occasional outbursts, and as I said, I was on the receiving end of one of them. I'm sure it's baseless, and my best advice to you is simply to ignore it. My impression is that he is wrestling with some unresolved issues, and the words 'chip' and 'shoulder' come strongly to mind.
You should also bear in mind that certain medications can turn an otherwise affable person into a cantankerous old fart in no time at all. This actually happened to me when someone I always regarded as a good friend suddenly and inexplicably turned nasty on me. I didn't respond in kind, and I subsequently learned that he was recently diagnosed with Parkinson's Disease. His meds had some very unpleasant side-effects, including a 'personality transplant'. He was very apologetic after the event, and I'm glad I didn't read him the riot act at the time.
The gnat bite analogy was a reference to tomi rather than trappeze artist, and I have edited the offending post in order to remove the ambiguity.