Re: Married into Narcissistic family
My husband and I have been married for a year and 6 months and it's been the most awful experience in my life with my MIL, her immediate family knows exactly how she is but like everything I've read so far, no they can't change her. My husband has spoken nicely to cussing and yelling, when he does cuss and yell she'll ask him why he's talking to her that way, he responds because you are not listening and understanding only hearing me. She does very nice things for you then uses it against you. She moves everything in our home from where I had it. The biggest problem besides touching thing's is, she took control over my stepson after his parents divorced and he was 9 years old then and now he's 16 years old. She still has a "diaper" on him and he doesn't listen to his dad or me. I'm thankful my husband see's it clearly with her but her actions are going to cause problems for our marriage soon, I want so very bad to speak up to her but I know it won't change anything. We have camera's outside of our house and I constantly look at them, not because I'm afraid of someone breaking in but dreading if she pulls up in the driveway. I told my husband something has got to stop or I'm leaving and he doesn't deserve this. She has cancer and won't even let my FIL tell us the truth and I almost don't care anymore because of how she's made me feel. She showed up 3 day's ago without notice like always but this time it really got to me, she bought my 16 year old stepson a treadmill so he can lose weight, she put it in his bedroom, I am yet to understand that one, he's addicted to video games to the point that no one sees him unless he's hungry and runs to my in laws to eat then back to his room with the door shut I cook every single day without fail. He needs to get out of the house with his friends and exercise like a normal person. I'm fed up and have no say so in our home. My husband is at the end of his rope too, I want to save my marriage but don't know how at this point. There's alot more but I don't have time to type it right now.