Re: Help for Solomon
We all have such problems from time to time! I agree with what the other person posted but would also stress:
think about times when conversation has gone smoothly, like with a family member, best friend, coworker who you know well, and try to determine why.
I woudl suggest, think less about what you say to her, topics and all of that, and more about simply exploring this other beautiful Being. We often take other human beings for granted, but imagine a world where you rarely saw another human.. Within the rare occasion that you did, you would be compeltely amazed! What woudl you say?
who are you? where did you grow up? what did you study in school? books? what do you like to do? where have you travelled?
just try to be honest and genuine in your exploration, and as far as the notebook.. if it makes you feel better to have it close by, I woudl recommend jotting down what you are learning about her rather than a list of things to ask. the fact that you actually retain information about a girl, remembering such things like where she grew up, what she likes to do, how many sisters and brothers she has, and the like, is GOLDEN. It lets her know that you actually care about her as a person and are genuinely interested in her Being and life.
Best of luck to you and always remember: no one could possibly care as much about our supposed "mistakes" as we do in our own heads.
:)