I am a rape survivor in my opinion. The person that did it was my own husband.
I admit that due to social and family dynamics over a 31 year period as well as the needs of the navy we had not had sex since before we were married.
Then he was trapped in the marriage because I am bi polar, and due to the cost that the state could potentially have his petition was denied for divorce seven years after our wedding.
My husband came back from the navy with ten years accrued senority at his civilian job. That was about two years more than about half the workforce, His father wanted him to reenlist in the navy and leave his civilian job to others. In his final refit they kept him on duty 106 hours straight. When he collapsed his blood pressure was up to 225 over 180. That was the end of the reenlistment plan we had. He was diagnosed as a paranoid from exhaustion, to many months under water, a total of 38 months in three and a half years, no leave or days off.
His father told us how his son needed controlling. How we could not let him have anything he might equate to a pleasurable activity because he would not agree to do things for others if it interfered with that activity.
I was told I had to control him. the plan was when he proved he could be the compromiser then I would be a real wife and have sex with him. This was an open ended promise that was never fulfilled. My own father in law helped me find dates because my husband worked 12 hours a day 365 day a year. He said just because this is what is required of my son doesn't mean his pretty wife should be without a social life