Published: 10 years ago
Re: Married into Narcissistic family
I'm sorry that you are experiencing the drama\trauma of a dysfunctional family dynamic. But, I will make a suggestion that getting out before you enter the legal and binding contract of marriage would be a very prudent consideration.
The first problem is that this guy is not yet divorced and the drama and trauma of the proceedings can actually BIND you to, and WITH someone that may be toxic to you. It's a very recognized condition called "trauma bond" by professionals.
I speak on this from 30 years of experiences with 2 vastly different ex spouses that were disordered. The longer we remain with these people, the more is at stake to lose. And, the most priceless loss of all is our own self esteem and self value.
Read my Curezone blog, "Coping With Betrayal," and accept that it is far better to be "alone" than to be reduced to rubble by another human being.
Marriage is a legal contract and a license to marry costs nothing compared to the trauma of a toxic or abusive relationship and the drama of a bitter divorce. Don't walk away ~ RUN!
My very best wishes to you.