I'm glad you're gonna get it, you MUST let me know what you think when you read it. It will take honesty and reflection for what the author suggests to take hold, but it sounds as if your husband is already there. In 2001, at the height of my power (lol) I KNEW I was on the wrong track even though it looked like I was kicking the world in the groin. This weighed on me in my subconcious (sp) mind. Then a few very stressful events hit, and yeah I broke down. And it took me 5 years to get from there to here, but I feel with every ounce of my fiber that while not perfect, my path is right for me now. But my wife and I had to do it on our own, by the grace of God, at a VERY young age, and I really feel as if you two will clear this much faster. If there is anything I can do, please holler. And FWIW, the book averages a 4.5 stars out of 5 at amazon.com. This coming from 250+ people who either had or knew somebody who HAD severe back problems. Tough group to be sure. God speed.