It is so nice to find a message board where people are mainly positive and considerate.
Some other good words from another person's earlier reply:
"By learning how the process is frustrated or not , such that by continually returning to giving space, by allowing whatever is occuring, we discover a new process a different arrangment. A living choice that isnt influenced so much by societies human frailties. A life situation which is more peacefull than previously known and able to deal appropriately with circumstance, as long as we dont attempt to organise it to our perception but rather allow this new and more involved, more relaxed perception to be revealed to us.
Its hard cause we have been trained to think and do the opposite but if we make the effort to face the necessary pain, at first daily, then moment to moment, we eventually learn to live with things as they are and can be and not have them control us. Little by little at first, tho the speed is up to us and how badly do we want to be free."
There is a great deal of wisdom here. What happens to us is so often outside our control. Not reacting negatively to events that at first appear negative will expand a person's vision and give them greater options on how to respond. This takes some maturity to do but it is worth striving to attain.