now, you wouldn't be the first or last to hook up with a jackass, but maybe that's exactly what we're talking about here. was he a prick before you had a kid with him? probably so. see, these are things you need to ask yourself before committing to somebody. that's a red flag. you haven't slept together in some time...that's a problem. he calls you a "lard ass" knowing you just gave birth...that's a red flag. i think you're smart for thinking about the "negatives" so early in the relationship. life is too short to spend it with a prick. the guy has to shape up and shape up right now.