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Re: Sarcasm
Becoming a new parent comes with its own issues - nobody EVER speaks truthfully about parenthood and that it requires nearly a complete reversal of attention from ourselves to another human being that cannot speak or indicate its needs. There is no handbook or "owner's manual" on how to cope with all of the challenges of raising a healthy child into a self-assured adult, and post partum depression can be a severe problem - it sure was for me.
Dear heart, there is only one thing that you have the power to "fix," and that is you, and you, alone. You do not have the power to "fix" the boyfriend and father of this innocent child. You do not have to power to force this relationship to work. You only have the power to "fix" you. That this man came from an abusive environment should have been cause enough to think twice about entering into a relationship. Long, hard work is necessary for any individual to heal from their experiences, and you cannot do the work FOR him. I would gently suggest that you may want to seek individual counseling to address your individual issues as separate people and not as a couple.
My personal belief is that a healthy relationship based upon trust, honesty, and positive support does not require "hard work" to make it successful. Too many times, the fantasy of what we "hope" the relationship will become is a far, far cry from the reality. If you're experiencing post partum depression, it could be due to many, many things: nutrition; rest; help with the baby; and constant verbal abuse. And, yes......calling someone a "lard ass" for eating a piece of bacon is, indeed, verbal abuse. It's not helpful, it's not encouraging, it's not kind, and it surely isn't supportive.
Good luck to you.