the fear of abandonment is here because it's something that I have experienced. My father abandoned his family. There, I said it!
I lived through it although the repurcussions have been life-altering, no doubt.
I don't know, that something so profoundly world-view-altering, happening as a child, can ever be truly "gotten over". Is there such a thing as learning to live within the parameters the world has thrust upon you? That's been my modus operandi.
I agree that my fear of it, at this point, serves no purpose. however my fear has a basis in cold reality. I've lived through the worst the universe can dish up.