Re: My Son
It may still not be too late. Can you talk to your son, preferably in a non-threatening atmosphere, such as a restaurant. Does he still love the first girlfriend? Has he realized the error of his ways? Is he willing to change? To make it right? And does the first girlfriend still love him? Is it possible to have a brand new beginning, this time with all the love, compromise and consideration that a meaningful relationship entails?
If so, he would need to tell this new girlfriend goodbye and ignore and/or deal constructively with how she reacts or with what she may do.
It sounds like he is using sex and drugs as an escape mechanism, his way of trying to find some semblance of love and happiness, when this love and happiness could still be within his reach. And any relief that he may feel from this "quest" will soon wear thin, as love in no way is the basis for this relationship, which may cause him to emotionally "crash."
We all make mistakes, but sometimes those mistakes can be corrected. Maybe it's not too late.
And hey........ If there should be a happy ending, let me know. I love "happy endings." I still believe in fairy tales.
Many hugs,
Luella