Re: My Son
Bless your heart katstump. As a mother, I can relate to your concern, hurt, and possible feeling of betrayal. Your son is now a man. However, he is only 19 years old and in the grand scheme of things, he is merely a babe. The following immediately caught my attention. His father said that he was in pain. This makes me wonder what it is emotionally that he is trying to get from this relationship. Of course, he will not attain it and if he does (or thinks he does), it will be very temporary and at a great price.
The thing is, that chances are he is not going to listen to you or anyone else. This girl seems to have him in her grip at the moment. But actually, from the statement above, it may be his own emotions holding him in this grip. The girl is the outward manifestation. It would be wise to stay away from the situation, but don't close the door. He's going to need you. Sometimes we have to learn very painful lessons on our own. Just be there to guide and support him when the time is right. Be there to pick of the pieces.
I know how difficult of a situation this is.
Hugs,
Luella