I'm on a pretty intense adoption forum. There seems to be many australian posters on it for some reason. These people are nuts, but extremely supportive, intelligent. Some have found their birth parents, some are still searching. Everyone lends support with their experience, and I wonder if you would feel like lending some support to them.
If you want the link to the site, PM me. I warn you, if you don't like swearing and the F-Bomb, you won't like this site. But if anything these people are very honest about everything they feel with this process.
Many need support during the search process. Many need support because of the ultimate rejection after the search. Many need support because they are in the court system to open their records. Many because their adopted families are laying a big guilt trip on them for even wanting to know. There are those that met their biological Mom, and it's an incredibly complicated and dysfunctional relationship they don't know how to deal with. And then there are the ones that are in loving and wonderful relationships with their biological families, and we are all jealous, but so happy for them.
No matter what, if you are not adopted, you can't get it. You can try to be understanding, but really if you don't live it, you can't know. Only adoptees know and we are all in some state of emotional backlash in one form or another. Even for those in denial about the whole thing.
So let me know. If anything, those folks are hilarious.