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LAT relationship. How long for?
 
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LAT relationship. How long for?


Really confused and in a fairly bad mood today, so I hope to get some help.
I'm 39 with a daughter of 7. I've been in a relationship for a bit more than two years with a 43 y.o. man.
One of the main problems is that he lives with his parents at about 100 miles (150 km) and only comes home from Friday nights to Monday morning.
I rent a flat where he had never paid either for rent or bills until a few months ago.
Actually, I feel it's always me that have to remind him about bills and stuff.
Only recently he has proposed to move home and get another flat together, which I think would be good. Unfortunately, there's never time to look for flats.
He's always busy with his job and other things, such as basketball (he's played all his life and this year, after a one-year stop he's going to play again). He's also a football referee and a passionate motorcyclist.
Over the last two years he has cut down on a lot of his hobbys.
Now, after a few weeks in summer, in which we have spent more time together, he's gone to one of those motorcyclist gatherings to another city. This is because years ago he went there with his best friend who died more than 12 years ago. They promised to each other they would have participated to that gathering for the rest of their life, so now that his friend is no longer with us, he feels he should go to keep a promise.
I know that being together shouldn't mean to forgive everything of our life as individuals. I also know that his life does not belong to me and never should.
However, I feel a bit annoyed now. To arrange for this trip, he had arrange things with the mechanic, get his motorcycle painted, get insurance, MOT, arrange the journey by ferry, book a hotel, call his friends etc.
He didn't even go to work, which is so unusual for him. And I don't know how much he spent for a two-days trip.
Only a few days ago, I was thinking I'd like to have a stronger commitment, buy a place for ourselves, and have a baby. Now I'm really puzzled and am not sure whether this is the right man to do all this things.
He tried to ensure me that we'll do everything, but I also know that he's going to buy an office with his brother and parents in the same town they live.
In many ways he's adorable and my daughter loves him a lot. But my interest is going down considerably.
I think that even if he talks about marriage and a baby, he will never leave his parent's house for good, because he works mainly in an area closer to them than to me. And I know I'll be annoyed to see him packing his suitcase on Sunday nights.

Thanks for reading.

Stef.
 

 
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