Hi, I know it's a couple of months down the line now, but if you're feeling anything like I did, it still probably hurts. A lot. Love is a form of obsession, and it's so easy to get caught up in it at the expense of all else...that's why it's so hard sometimes to see someone for who they really are, and to realise that you can do better. If it's any help I can send you a break-down of the obsession cycle that many of us experience once we've broken up with someone, particularly if you (like me) have had problems with your self-esteem. I've written a book on the matter (available to download at www.whenlovehasgone.com if anyone's interested in reading more), so hopefully I know a thing or two about the situation you're in. You can get stronger, and you will get through this. Take care, Paul Thorn,