"i am a usaf vet. if youre not taking flak, youre not over the target.
i have found that when people are being nice, i am doing something wrong. thats the nature of reality - no good deed goes unpunished."
I was curious as to how many on this board believe this to be true, and why you do, as I might have believed this once myself but have since regarded this mentality as a type of self-fulfilling prophecy. Not saying there are not times you will certainly meet resistance when you are forcing ahead against a wicked tide, but that there is also an element of painting yourself AS the target that seems to be a large piece of the behavioral component that sets you up to take it.