Re: Hi Beentheredonethat - I reposted at top - so we can discuss this

vektek,

I also realize that the children of the world suffer a similar fate as my past. This is why I sound very hard nosed when I speak of this, not because of my own misfortune, but because it happens to others.

As you can imagine, one of the results of dysfunctional families is often the divorce of the parents. Statistically, children of divorced parents suffer Depression into adulthood, late adulthood, and often beyond.

Even though my parents didn't divorce until I was 15, I knew even before I was 10 that they never should have married. Technically, I shouldn't exist. My subconscious mind always knew this, but it never told me (otherwise I could have answered it back and told it that I'm on this earth by default). So, I grew up in a daze and couldn't truly relate to reality (and I was completely aware of being in a daze, but never understood why).

I don't know the particulars of that girl you speak of, but this is likely in any childhood matter. Parents are our introduction into this world and are responsible for teaching us how to live in this world, they also establish our identity at it's roots (we are "the child OF" PARENTs/plural.

No matter how much love I have for my parents, when I remember that my brother's suicide note was addressed to my mother and that his suicide happened on my father's birthday, I quickly learn how to separate love from leniency and justice (God will not look kindly on my parent's legacy).

The first moment of healing I remember (I was about 46) is that I was listening to someone talk about their job search, and they said...

"I wouldn't take a job that I don't like, I will only take a job that I want".

All of my life, I always heard people say things like this, but I never thought that I could also.

The particular words that meant alot to me were...

1) the word "I".

2) the word "want".

3) the word "like".

I was particularly fascinated with the word "I". Whenever someone would ask me why I did something a certain way, I would answer "Well, that's just ME",...

...but "ME" only REFERS to yourSELF, the word "I" is a much superior word because it...

...............DECLARES YOUR EXISTENCE.

This was a great discovery to me (that "I" could be a sovereign human being, a unique individual, acheive "consciousness" and become SELF aware).

It took a little longer for me to realize that I also have the right to "want" and "like" things.

There are people who have a "clinical" Depression because they don't eat healthly (bodily depression), but, no matter what anybody thinks, all "emotional/psychological" Depression is an IDENTITY CRISIS.

Get that girl to use the word "I", and teach her that she can "want" and "like" (Physician, heal thyself).











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