Sometimes its not even about looks, I have a friend who complains that we never ask her on outings, the problem is not that she's not fun or we don't want her to come along, the problem is that if she goes anywhere she needs at least 2 hours warning to put her face on. It means that she can't just grab the golf clubs and go, or pop on the bathers and go for a swim. Even on a wine and girly vid night, she's gotta get the goop on.