Give him another chance or not with me question????
My ex bf i almost dated for about four months and half ended up cheating on me while being really really intoxicated by kissing this one gurl of the two gurls he ended up meeting at the bar one nite. He ended up bringing them back to my apartment, he left the gurl he cheated on in my apartment to use the washroom without even asking when drunk. The next morning after i had kicked him out from my place because he ended up coming to my place really drunk and i just had a strong gut feeling something happened with that one gurl he let in. He ended up coming back around seven o'clock in the morning still kinda half cut asking if i was really mad at him. I of course, let him in. We ended up going to bed. I had really strong feeling something really happened between him and that gurl. Sooo i started looking over his body for any hickeys, bite marks. And guess what? I seen a small hickey on his freaking neck. I slapped him across the head, asking him what the hell that was from? He told he didn't remember what thatw as from, but he said he ended up kissing her on the lips when she did at the bar before he came back to my place with the gurl ( he cheated with). I kicked him out, after beating him out a lil. Not proud, but i did. I was really hurt, angry, and my anxiety went up because he said he wouldn't ever cheat on me. Anyways i forgave him because within the first week of dating him i got drunk and ended up frenching kissing my baby's father three times in one nite. He told me he wouldn't drink anymore. Sooo for the next three weeks he doesn't end up drinking. Then he ends up getting buzzed up with a friend's who going outta town. His excuse for drinking is because his friend was going outta town and his friend wanted to drink with him before he left. What kinda bothers me is after they drank, he went to the bar to have a couple of beers. That nite i ended up breaking up with him. I am still not with him. But i am a commited break-up. Which means we agreeing not to date, flirt with anybody. We are taking the time to work on ourselfs before we are a offical couple again. My aunt says he's using me because i still talk to him, hang out almost everyday, we don't have sex. But we still do cuddle. Is is wrong/ inapporiate i am still doing this with him? I care about him lots and i realize he has a drinking problem and i feel i wanna wait for him to get the help he needs. He is getting a alcohol assestment to see what kinda problem he has with drinking and is agreement to go to the treatment for it. The other day he called the place for it, but didn't leave a msg because he doesn't have a phone line in his place. He used some centre's phone i go too almost everyday. I am deciding not to be his girlfriend untill he is sober for atleast a year. What are your views on this people?