Most of our choices are unconcious!

Well, I have been in a difficult marriage since 10 years and I have learnt a lot and my life turnt around 200%. I am now a woman who has her own still successful business, a beautiful house and garden and we are still together and despite horrible experiences we are growing together. I wanted to end it so many times. Finally I found a website of a couple that cured their narcissim (husband's) and I read their e-book which immediately helped me. I saw instantly what I did right all these years and what I did wrong. Started to correct it. Then I miraculously saw my own terrible problems carried into this marriage and now I am completely focused on my emotional clean-up.
People divorce too much. Staying together and working it out is super-tough and the only way to learn. Americans "move on" too easily with their homes and with their hearts. And where do they go once they "moved on" so religiously? Just to the same old stuff in new clothing.
That doesn't mean that I would ever stay with someone who is beating me. But - hey, where is the perfect person out there?