dont stress out, there are ways around it, it is hard and takes a great deal of mental control but you can overcome the negative aspects. it took me 4 years just to ask a girl out without fear. but what ive recently noticed is that FOR ME, i capitalize because all people respond differently, humidity helps a great deal (warm climates) and working out. Working out relieves the stress and as long as i work out every few days the lips dont peel.
you just need to find whats right for you.
if i can give any advice, you need to get over the creams and balms, it si hard, and took me a few years, but now my lips are normal and function as they should despite the occasional peel. and my lips were bad, i didnt even go out for months at a time. but with trial and error you will persevere.
understand that all my trials and errors took 4 years so dont expect immediate success.