i'm so sorry times are tough for you right now. i'm not experienced enough to feel i can offer you any advice but i just want to say that i feel for you.
have you posted your problems on other forums? it might be worth doing a copy and paste into several forums to get the maximum response.
hang in there. this time will pass, hard as it is to believe that right now. let go of your fear if you can. i know it is really magnified by having the great responsibility of a child. but your fear will worsen your symptoms. 99% of the things we worry about never occur.