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Re: I don't want to cheat


There's no "good" excuse for remaining in an obviously toxic relationship.  If it were me, I would have left the day that my boyfriend insisted that his unmotivated friend live with us - PERIOD.  After the emotional/physical toll of losing a pregnancy, the boyfiend (NOT a typo, either) should have been more attentive to my emotional state and needs and not have allowed another party into my sanctuary - PERIOD.

You've been battling this issue for some months, now, and you're only tormenting yourself, at this point.  You are choosing to remain for reasons that are pointless - he is not going to change because you want him to or because you wish that he would.  There is no relationship, just a coexistence.  You are not bound to this loser (and, he IS a loser) by a contract of marriage.  Soul searching, finding out who you are, and building upon your strengths and facing down your demons before entering into another relationship would be the best suggestion that I could make after suggesting that your relationship with the boyfiend is not only toxic, but far and away an unhealthy one.  I would suggest that you walk away from this relationship, sever all ties, delete all information about this man, and go rekindle your Self (Self = that Life's Spark that makes you unique).

There are many forms of abuse, and emotional abuse is the most damaging because there are no scars, marks, or bruises that can bear witness to the abuse - see the Curezone Domestic Violence Survey.  I would encourage you to definitely do some soul searching, self-affirmation, and get the heck OUT of that relationship.  You do not need someone else to make you whole - you are all that you need to be a healthy, productive, and successful woman.  Once you have evolved into an emotionally healthy, self-confident, and independent woman, you will likely meet someone who shares similar interests, goals, and will encourage and nurture the relationship, unlike the goofball that you're living with, now.

Best wishes to you.

 

 
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