You know, it's time for you to quit with the Oprah-esque excuses, "my childhood, my abusive ex, my this and that"...no guy wants that in his life. I don't. I don't date whiners and complainers. You would've been kicked to the curb after date #1. You say to yourself, right here and now, that any negative spins will be tempered with more rational, positive approaches. That's what he wants from you. So what if he comments on weight, we're guys, we're visual. Don't like it, don't date guys! You start shaping up, being worthy of his advances, and he'll start to sweeten up. It's you, all you. Time is a wast'in away. We want positive women in our lives and we dump the Debbie Downers. That's the rules of the game, Debbie!