Question to PARENTS (about a BULLY child)...
we have a neighbour boy who is older then our child (by 2-3 years). Everytime my child plays with him, my child gets in trouble.
Boy is very smart, but a trouble, and often bullies others. Since he is older then most kids he plays with (he is about 11, others are 5-8), he is intellectually intimidating, and he uses that. There were several conflicts with him and our neighourhood kids. He made my child cry many times before to the point where my son was scared to go play outside. It's more mental intimidation rather then physical (kids is not that big). Since then there were times when my child and that boy played together or in a group, and sometimes it was ok, but sometimes it was not. So, me and my husband decided not to encourage our child to play with this boy alone.
Today my child (8) and his other younger friend (5) were playing in a front yard, and the neighbour boy wanted to play. The kids didn't want to play with him, saying that he is always mean.
They told him to leave, but he would not leave the yard. My son kept telling him and asking me to tell him.
I finally had to come out and said rather sternly, that it was obvious that my child and another boy didn't want to play with him, so he should go play somewhere else. He didn't say anything, just kept sitting on a chair (outside).
I said that he needed to go now, and he was looking like he was about to cry or to get angry. I asked him if he was going to leave, if he was getting angry..or what...his face looked out of sorts....he just didn't say anything...
Because he ignored me and my husband in the past (sometime ago), I thought he was ignoring me now too, so I told him that I don't really want to deal with this right now. (I had a rough day, and this was just an extra thing I didn't want to deal with)....He stood up quickly and stormed out on his bycicle crying. I felt pretty bad, was I too harsh?