"I think many NPDs are like my mother in that they have a different personality when dealing with people outside the family. People saw my mother as this charming, wonderful person. When she would complain to outsiders--woe is me, rotten husband, rotten kids--they always believed her. If I tried to tell them the truth, they wouldn't believe me."
That's been my experience... EXACTLY! But I've also found as I have believed more in myself... and presented the facts CALMLY... other people have been more inclined to consider what I am saying... and then they have also believed me! It's also helped to not care so much if other's believe it or not... and just steer clear of those who have been associated with the whole situation!
Just keep putting one foot in front of the other...