Thanks Fonty. I will explain that to him that way. He might see how disgusting it is that way. It is hard to find him attractive (and he is very) anymore when I think of how rotten his insides are becoming. That was kind of hard to say, but it's how I feel, and I can't make myself feel something different. I need to nurture him back to good health and sometimes that means a little coaxing, and sometimes tough love. I think this occasion calls for a little bit of both. Thank you Fonty and Mouseclick.