havent u heard the saying "love is blind" and it can take over your mind so when you think thats its love and its truly not; it can make u do some crazy things. Love can be beautiful or pure hell. It all depends.
Us women can only take so much and try to do so much in a relationship to fix the situation. It goes back to 50/50. If you are WILLING to invest your time to make this relationship work, Then he NEEDS to do the same. As I can see, you already SACRIFICE alot in this relationship and isnt HAPPY. What has he done???
Im not trying to talk down to him and he prolly is a good, caring man. I truly dont know the full situation 100% so im only speaking on what you write in in posts. but also you have done your dirt by moving into MAJOR situation that deeply needed to be discussed. especially when bringing in a child. so it takes two