Depression ALTERNATIVES support forum (solutions).

The original poster came here for assistance to find a BENEFICIAL and desireable solution (the only kind of alternative that should be considered here at CZ). I did not suggest alternatives to the situation she is in such as...
Moving to another country
or
joining the military...

because these would not be beneficial or desireable, I suggested that she REPAIR THE RELATIONSHIP (instead of LEAVING like so many people are comfortable to suggest, or are you more comfortable destroying this mother's dreams?). Everybody goes through hard times, she needs encouragement not to simply GIVE UP on the family (her own) that she had dreamed about having all her life.

Her whole post was 'NON-STOP PANIC' and complaints (no paragraphs, only focusing on being and remaining a helpless victim with no way out). Being in a state of panic, insisting on remaining a victim instead of REASONING to find a beneficial/desireable SOLUTION/alternative (make progress) is BAD/NOT GOOD.

I did not ACCUSE, I 'CAUTIONED', I warned OF a worse future that CAN POSSIBLY happen IF she GIVES UP.

I did not predict the future (I can't). I did not say that she will be responsible or that there will be a suicide (you might draw the conclusion that I didn't commit suicide, but maybe you weren't sure of that, consider this official notice, I am alive). I didn't trivialize anybody's Depression or misfortune.

She probably read my post carefully considering the seriousness of her decision to simply "give up" with the full wisdom and love that a mother has, if anything NEGATIVE and destructive has been considered by her since reading my post, it is because she now thinks that she is being accused and trivialized. The 'power of suggestion' (your suggesting that she has been accused/scorned as a villain) and trivialized (mocked/ridiculed/criticized as insignificant) is likely to have done more damage to her than if you simply LET HER express her own feelings (even if she would be defensive in expressing her feelings, likely she wouldn't be defensive, only REALISTIC (HEALING).

That I have been accused (and by drawing conclusions) is nothing new to me, I've had 51 years of it. I have no resentment and no regrets (I have no past). Since you so comfortably wield/use this "power of suggestion" suggesting/accusing me of being "DAMN" selfish, I WOULD ask that you not also hang me on a cross or burn me at the stake, but I am not so sure that I wouldn't prefer that to this nice, 'friendly' "world that can be seen", society hasn't made this world so attractive with this "power of accusation/suggestion".












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