You are correct. Living on hope alone can be rough. Really it's hard to say what the situation is with "love". Love changes as a relationship progresses. Love really becomes the commitment of the individuals to a partnership. In the beginning it's a lot more charged and romantic. But, we like most couples have moved out of that stage. We still find each other attractive and all that jazz, but the terms of love have changed. For her it has really become a feeling that she does not have a solid partner. That she can't trust me with getting things done that need to be done. Or that she is carrying a lot of the weight. This is not the case in truth from my perspective. I have and do carry big parts of the relationship. In the end this demanding quality and hen pecking on her part have diven me to focus almost unnaturally so with trying to meet these demands. This has not been something I have blown off. I could not simply ignore them and be a tough guy about these issues. But, at this point it has gone too far.