Re: full of negativity
The requirements that must be satisfied in order to "respect yourself" are...
1) accept who you are and declare yourself to be adequate.
2) accept who you really are and be satisfied with who you are.
3) accept who you are and realize that people who criticize you are simply jealous of your good nature and consider you an offense to their conscience and ego.
4) accept who you are and realize that people need to get/convince you to compensate for THEIR failures and insecurities in order to belittle you and redeem themselves.
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No, she does not need to "TRY" to be beautiful (you do remember that human beings were made by God IN HIS IMAGE, or did you forget?) in order to be "worthy" of respect (self-respect included).
Speaking as a member of the human race, we would appreciate it if you could address us with SORROW compassion (real compassion, not "condescension").