instead of criticizing me by taking two sentences from my posts, you could criticize my advice I gave her:
1) Accept yourself as you are now, not I 'll lose weight and when I was...
2) Have fun. Fun was the word I used most to my initial post.
3) This relationship is finished don't spend time and efforts there.
4) Socializing with common everyday men even if they are not as good looking as her current boyfriend. (Why none asked me how do I know he is a good looking guy? just curious).