Sanctuary, I surely sympathize. Love our spouses. Can't live with em or without em.
I hate wearing them, but ear plugs do help with 80% of the noise, and a tempurpedic face mask for the light. Neither one is perfect, but do help. This is the only face mask I've been able to wear a majority of the night, but still have problems with it coming off. I can't tighten it any more or it'd be uncomfortable and block the nasal air passages.
I suspect adrenal issues, too, and am going to see when I go in this week if the doc will check for them.