"What I am saying to you I am saying because I have had the experience of being a "nice person victim", and the quality of my life and the lives of people around me suffered. I sighed and stayed in unhappy situations a long long time"
Me, too, just got out of 5 years of doing that. In relationships like that, things never change until you get out. You drive all your friends and family nuts because they can't understand why you would give and give to someone who only takes.
One thing the poster also does is make generalizations, that all men cannot figure out what women want and what makes them happy. At the same time he blames himself only.