The first time I "came" was by complete accident.... my boyfriend and I were just lying in bed massaging each other's genitals, that's all. The prolonged soft massage of my clitoris made me cum. I have always come with massage of the clitoris, taking about 15 mins of constant circular massage... I have never cum with intercourse. You might like to try massaging your clit when you are alone, maybe use some lube as well, and keep going until you feel an unusual feeilng coming... at this point DO NOT STOP! Keep going.... and I'm sure you will reach cllmax. Its like a sneeze and totally unmistakenable. Good luck

OK here's what you do if you can't get yourself to cllmax with clitoral stimulation with your hand/finger. if you have a bathtub put the water on full balst or almost full blast- warm to luke warm - lay with your legs spread so the water hits your clitoris continuously.....lay there....nothing may happen for a few minutes....just stay there- spread your legs so the water hits you good. you will cllmax like never ever before!!! it's unbelievable. try it...who cares if your not in bed with your hubby- have him join you in there once you are comfy with it. i am telling you- it's the best thing. enjoy yourself- you can have an cllmax- i promise you this. experiment. i never have cllmaxs from intercourse only- i have to stimulate myself and it's great. nothing is wrong with you.....experiment....it's worth it. cllmaxs are too awesome to give up on. try what i suggested. see what happens....also imagine stuff that turns you on while doing this.

Hi,
Sorry you haven't had an cllmax yet. It must be very frustrating. The various forms of self stimulation that were recommended are good...especially the bathtub one. That should work for you. Have you talked to you GYN doc about this? Some women have extra skin covering part or all of their clitoris. You can have it removed. Check into that too.

At any rate it is important to be relaxed...almost to the point where your not thinking or trying to achieve one but more focusing on what feels best and then doing more and more of it.

Wow I'm new reading this forum site, quite the issue my dear. You can't stress about it, and your husband needs to be more supportive, you can never give up on the big "O". Get yourself in the mood and don't put pressure, take a warm bath in some nice smelling oils, then let him touch you for a while, and you let him know what feels good and soon your body will take over and let him know for you, do you feel yourself get wet and does your clit grow a little when you are excited and I guess my other question is do you ever just feel horny, I know certain times of the month are worse, like the week before my period is due I am an animal and I guess am so in the mood have an easier time during intercourse having and cllmax. I don't have any trouble with the "O", and I'm not a bearded lady, I have beautiful curves. Just don't go to the sack stressed, it's like people who are trying too hard to get pregnant it never happens and when they just relax forget about it and enjoy sex again boom they're pregnant and hopefully boom for you cllmax...Are you comfortable with your body? Do you look in the mirror and like what you see? Does your husband make you feel sexy? Sometimes it really is in your head what is holding you back. Love your body and explore it, and yes get on top and ride!!!

The more relaxed you are, the more foreplay, the less anxious, building up desire prior to touching "it spots", don't think about expectations, just feel, and it will be easier for your body to talk to you, to let you know where it needs to be caressed, where it needs to be touched and how.

Rubbing your back, kissing it lightly, and rubbing your skin in general wakes up your senses prior to starting any sexual foreplay.

Then it will happen naturally. You MUST be lubricated before any direct contact happens, or there will not be any chance of pleasure developing. Natural lubrication is your best choice since it also indicates readiness. And then you can still continue to build up desire, as this will send blood to the area and increase sensitivity.

During intercourse, it is important for you and your husband to maintain rythm and closeness, or you will only be experiencing the "ins and outs" of the situation, which leaves you out of luck for stimulation.

The "Better Sex Tapes" are educational tools that you may want to consider, they are produced using actual couples and sex therapists. You can search for different sources to obtain them from, or perhaps rent them. Here is one link I found:


http://www.bettersex.com/sex-education/better-sex-video-series-6-volume-colle...


I am reminded of one episode of friends, where Monica and Rachel were showing Chandler what NOT to touch until a girl is ready... Funny episode, but absolutely true!

Whatever your inhibitions, may actually be what gets you more excited... You may just be supressing your feelings. Fantasize.

Above all, have fun while trying out the best ways to find your "zone".

Happy experimenting ...

MadArt (ist)

Have you gotten enough info on this; or could you use more?

Please read THE CLITORIS DURING INTERCOURSE here:


http://www.luckymojo.com/tkclitoris.html

It took me a year to finally get my girl friend to cum. No it wasnt dureing sex, I had to give her a long 30 minute massage down there not to mention I had to do it passionatly and I had to do a lot of foreplay before hand. After I figured it out though I've managed to get her to fully come 3 times. Again, it's impossible for me to get her to come dureing intercourse, just doesnt work that way. She's bisexual, even her ex - girl friend could not get her to come simply because her previous partners never took the time and patience and persistance to devote all their energy just to HER pleasure and none for them selves.

The ability to cllmax depends on libido. Try Sentia pills to increase it. Have you heard about this supplement? It's very popular now. It consists of herbs and it's safe.