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pjangel
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Hey Guys,
How do we (I) make this a happy, positive day? My husband and I probably won't 'speak' unless I call him....he did give me a potted plant on Saturday that smells very nice...we went dancing Saturday, but things are rough. We had the oddest exchange via email--I expressed some feelings, got a one sentence reply that had nothing to do with what I said, and when I asked if he's actually READ the email, he said, yes, it was touching.
I'm lost....and need to to what I said I'd do: focus on my health. But then it Valentine's Day...and it's depressing.
Any ideas for turning it around? Many of us don't have perfect relationships, some are waiting for the relationship, some are enduring a relationship, some are in pain.
So, as the song asks, "What's it all about, Alfie?"
feeling blue, but I'll turn it around.
pj
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- Alfie said to tell you this Autumn
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This is a reply to # 669,959Hi pj,
The best V-day I ever had was making a valentine and sending it to an address posted by Ann Landers. She used to collect valentines every year for combat veterans who were so injured in war that they were gonna spend the rest of their lives in VA hospitals and could never leave. That was so nice.
One year I went to a special V-day meeting of my O.A. group. One woman told about tuning in on the radio and being devastated by the number of people who called in romantic songs dedicated to their sweeties. Then she heard a woman call in a dedication "To my dear O.A. group."
One year I baked heart cookies and delivered them to a bunch of senior citizen ladies in my neighborhood; they were such lively sharp people and a lot more animated and informed than I am.
I never had a real courtship or a real V-day though, so this is not the expert talking. No man ever gave me a plant or took me dancing. (At least this neighborhood has plenty of great plants at the curb on Trash Day, and there are free circle folk dances too :) ) I have no luck at all eliciting an emotional response from men. The luck is somewhat better when I create a steady space where it is safe for them to confide or show what they feel already.
But I'm thinking of you today!!!
How about the rest of you? What other celebration ideas have worked?
Blessings and good cheer to everybody,
A
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This is a reply to # 669,960Someone should have told you this a long time ago....
I treasure every word you say and every word you write,
and after you have filled my day,I think of you at night.
You are the everlasting dawn, that makes my life worthwhile,
and I could never carry on without your loving smile.
In every dream I kiss your hand,and gaze into your eyes,
to ask your heart to understand and try to sympathize.
I'll follow every step you take wherever you may go;
I'll live for your beloved sake because I love you so.
I only wish I had the chance to keep you in my care,and offer
you the paradise that I would have you share.
That is my every dream and all that I may do,became
the little daily prayer I dedicate to you.
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This is a reply to # 669,961Goodness land, this is just beautiful! What a surprise to log in and see this to start the day.
Now I want to go back and read all your other messages so I have a frame to put around it. If I do it after work time (which started 30 sec. ago) my concentration will be even better.
It must be grand to be a person who can write a poem like that. Or poetry at all.
Blessings and a grand smiling day to YOU,
A
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Autumn,
You are a special person, and someone expressed that very well.
I need to be more grateful for what I have, but I struggle. Right at THIS moment, I'm 'in trouble'. My mind is trying to shift back into it's Depression patterns, and my mind is saying, yes, look, all the signals are here. You are hosed."
the other part of me is saying, 'No way. I've put too much on the line. I can't 'go there'(back to depression). I'm scared. That's not useful. In the past, I have always been amazed at 'how fast I crash'. I CAN'T allow this to happen. Don't know quite what to do. Any suggestions? help!
pj
- well, one lil thing Autumn
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This is a reply to # 669,966Hi pj darlin,'
One little thing that is really powerful right now is, every day contacting someone with a really interesting dream or right-livelihood or hobby, and asking for some advice. I was in this despair crash on Valentine's night and finally went to the library (my equivalent of going to a bar). I randomly walked into a lecture hall where this really friendly warm OPEN couple was giving a talk about helping future first-time homebuyers. I actually sat down, since some day it would be nice to buy a house, and let them hand me literature and advice. So it might sound dorky, but it did me good to see these wonderful dedicated government workers who really truly wanted to HELP and loved their job. It was so nice to sit back and be helped with all kinds of good advice.
Then last night I went to a church potluck. I've been circling their campfire like a coyote for 6 months now, afraid to really join and commit. And again people were just so good, they welcome everybody and were so glad and shared food and prayers and life experiences. And listening I could see that other people have WAY hard lives!!! But there they are, setting aside one night a week to share food and support and then a prayer service.
Then at work there are people in Personnel who actually encourage us to come in with our resumes and ask for good advice and direction, and they've been wonderful.
I have no idea whether that stuff will help you at all. But as I look around, there are lots of nice people who surprisingly enough are GLAD to share their information and time and enthusiasm. All I have to do is dress up and reach out and go put myself in their presence. (Afterwards I'm always careful to get back in touch and let them know how their advice helped and what I am doing to put it to good use, and to send appreciation. They really like that.)
Obviously you have big-time, long-term difficulties that you are coping with, so I hope this doesn't sound too light. It was just a good lesson for me lately, to really look around and see how much help really exists.
Blessings,
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Hey, I forgot!!!
Somebody did give me a plant once! A guy who came from Siberia in 1980 found a big thorny cactus in somebody's garbage, and we were getting the worst blizzard in history that night and he didn't want it to die, so he put his coat over it and then walked 2 miles to pound on my door at midnight with this thing because he noticed me at school and decided I was a nice person.
He said "Here. This is Leonid. He wants to live with you."
I fixed some cocoa for him and potting soil for the plant. He and I cleaned the snow off the cactus and it did just fine, and then the guy and I were friends.
Also a man took me dancing once. He was in a wheelchair and pretty much paralyzed but he invited me anyway and we tore up the dance floor.
And now our friend at Cure Zone wrote me a poem and it even rhymes!!!
See? I forgot to stop and count the blessings sometimes.
A
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