Sorry to say,...but there is not all that much that you can do to make your family behave better. The main thing you have to be concerned about is YOUR safety, emotionally and otherwise. It DOES hurt to realize that, but, you are going to have to somewhat emotionally detach yourself from your family for YOUR sake. Sorry.

Innocence rankles evil. So it tries to destroy that innocence. It tries to plant that seed of hate which was planted in them, and which they nurtured. Just as Christ "won" by not losing, that is, by retaining His loving nature in the face of humiliation, by forgiving to the end, so we "win" by keeping our souls whole.

The Foundation of Human Understanding does a lot of counseling of sexual abuse victims. One lesson is that we become what we hate. So refuse to hate, just keenly observe all the dynamics of this evil so you can understand, and in understanding, forgive. To forgive isn't all that gracious, as it unburdens our hearts and gives God free reign to levy His justice. Forgiveness turns the fate of the miscreant over to God alone.

And Christ was emphatic: those who scandalize the little ones would be better off swimming in the deepest ocean with a millstone around their necks. Forgiveness turns the fate of the miscreant over to this God.

I hope and trust your great goodness, evinced by the great evils against you, will be wise enough to take counsel of the living God within you with the Foundation of Human Understanding's concentration meditation. It is available free as a download, and is an easy exercise which delinks us from trauma, letting the divine light shine through to strengthen us. Bless you, and may God bless your enemies with His repentance so they may not suffer His terrible wrath.

Foundation of Human Understanding