Bonny,

These swellings are related to congested lymph ducts/nodes (see diagrams in The Amazing Liver Cleanse. They can consist of various items such as toxins, bacteria, fats, putrefied cell material, proteins, matabolic waste matter. Having them near the ears indicates that there is a more severe lymph congestion in the thoracic and r. lymphatic ducts, and the cysterna chilli at the belly button area. Liver cleanses and colon cleanses are necessary to improve the lymph drainage. Diet plays a major role.

The way to help him is not through trying to persuade him but by helping yourself first. He needs to see how all that impacts your health. Men are strange beings, sometimes. In know that because I am a man. They don't want to be told what they need or should be doing. They want to discover it themselves. By not saying anything to them, you give them that choice. They may seem they are not interested, but they are very observant and register much more than they let on. The less you share with him about what you are doing (unless he asks you to), the better for him. He has his own growing to do. You wouldn't want to rob him of his own lessons. He needs to come to a place where he will no longer feel that putting himself first is selfish. Illness can help to accomplish that feat. Honoring and accepting oneself is still the fasest way to healing. By doing this for yourself it will surely rub off on him and in a way to give him permission to do the same.

Andreas