maybe ask your dermatologist about trying tacrolimus ointment
Sorry but if you really do have exfoliative cheilitis i dont know if thats a mental problem. I see people treat their lips like shit - licking all day, injections, mouth breathing - and they dont have exfoliative cheilitis.
blaming exfoliative cheilitis on "mental problems" is an easy & convenient answer for a very complicated, rare, mysterious condition but if you think that your cheilitis is due to a mental problem you could try seeing a psychologist for ways to not manipulate your lips if you do that or you can try medications which could relax you or you could try wearing bandaids, tape,
gloves on your hands if your hands are the problem.
i think everyone with exfoliative cheilitis is hopeless bud, im sorry to say. its a horrible situation.