here is an excerpt on my blog post about criminals and people who are just difficult to deal with (coud be potential criminals too)
13 But as for me, when they were sick,
My clothing was sackcloth;
I humbled myself with fasting;
And my prayer would return to my own heart
Anyway, I reached for Nanay’s new Bible (a gift from our friend), and was lead to read through Psalms 35:13. Apparently King David fasted not only for himself but for other people too.
Through observation and personal experience, I know that people who are sick are usually hard to deal with. They are stubborn and is always in contrary to good advice. However, King David exhibited sympathy even to those who were stubborn and difficult to him (Saul at that time). He wished no worse to them than to himself and prayed for good things for them as he would have done so for himself.
At the time when a colleague was so stubbornly difficult to me, I went home almost to tears and buried my face to my pillow and tried my best to pray for her, so God will bless her and so that the next morning she would not be so difficult to me. A few months after, she was blessed indeed and was promoted to become a replacement of her own boss.. Duh! You say! Yes, at first I told God, “dear Lord, I know I prayed that you bless her, but I did’nt pray that you promote her ”, oh yeah I was envious. Anyway, she indeed became a better person (at least to me) and we since had a better working relationship since then. Of course, I did not tell her that I prayed for her. Why should I? (you can tell I am still not affectionate towards this person, not to any certain extent. However, I have learned how to deal with my own resentment in a way that would allow me to be still a professional worker, inspite of everything. later on the resentment turned into “detached” compassion. Meaning I became compassionate about her chemical imbalances, but I remained “detached” so as to protect myself… I have too many things to be busy with.. I will leave her case to God).
In Book 1 (barefoot Herbalist’s website), the author mentioned or proposed that before we even put so-called “criminals” to the judgement seat, we should first try to detox them and once we are sure that their “criminal” tendencies are not due to chemical imbalances, then and only then should we judge him/her from a moral or criminal standpoint. Anyway, what I am trying to say here is, most people who are difficult to deal with or those people who are depressed are suffering from chemical imbalances. Or you could also say that those who are sick (have chemical imbalances) would be difficult to deal with and/or depressed. And the fact that they are difficult to deal with, how can you ask them to detox? Chain them to a post, and then feed them with juice intravenously? If a criminal is indeed mentally sick due to chemical imbalances, should we then treat the sick and criminals in the same way?
So, when one says he/she is praying for the sick most likely, this person is praying for a sick love one (and the part that this love one is difficult to deal with will be played down, as we tend to tolerate even to the point of acceptance all the stubbornness of a sick love one). However, in David’s context, it seems he is praying for someone who is really stubborn and made life difficult for him. For some reason, David still found a reason to pray for this person, as he would have done so for himself. In my case, I prayed that my colleague (who makes life difficult for me), so that she will be blessed. In the end I also benefited, God blessed her with a promotion and God blessed me with a better colleague.
Hmmm, makes sense huh?! So back to fasting and the reason why I am doing this. My mother (nanay) have been praying for 2 of her cousins who are seriously sick, but would not listen to any of the advice she gave. I told her it will take someone dear to them (a daughter/son or sister), to plead to them. A sick person will not have the clarity or the ability to discern right from almost right. If she is really concerned about her cousins, I told her she have to plead their cause to God. To intercede for them in prayer, as she would have done for herself or for one of her children/grandchildren.
I also remember that Gandhi fasted for his people in India and that through fasting he was able to make a statement peacefully without making loud arguments to people he already know are difficult to deal with (so what’s the point of trying to make a conversation, right?). So, when faced with the reality of having to deal with a sick love one (and not knowing the right thing to say without having an argument or being uncomfortable), or dealling with a difficult colleague, FAST and PRAY! Cause more often than not, that is the only WAY!