The possibility of being unfaithful seems inevitable from the original poster's questions. Why would you want to be with, "for a long time", the ICE QUEEN any more than with the FAKER?
**** Then, there really are men who are in it to use the woman as a receptical - nothing more.*******
IF, after I have "told him", the problem still persists - then where IS the problem? I had a guy once, who wanted nothing more than to bend me over the washing machine at 9:15, do his thing and be home in bed by 9:30! He admitted, upon questioning, that he had always thought sex was just for him - was admittedly selfish and self-centered(DUH!)- but AT LEAST admitted it??!!!
Okay, so no two of us will see it the same way, but the original question seems a recipe for failure in either case.