John McCain 2008
learn from the situation. you guys got evicted...not good. then you both go your separate ways? not good. what kind of guy...i repeat...what kind of guy allows his honey to go live with her mommy, travel three states away, and doesn't call? a bastard, that's what kind of guy. you got a loser, there, honey. run for the hills and consider his cold shoulder treatment a godsend. cry, get it out, but you need a real man that treats you like a treasure...not like a tramp that can be thrown to the wolves and if he calls or doesn't...so what? i'll call when i'm damn well ready. good lesson in your disaster for all the younger women live-ins out there. keep separate residences until it's really serious and you've got a committment. other than that, you'll end up like this one here or worse. i'm with your mom...there's a reason he doesn't get along with her. bad sign that you've been shack'n up with a deadbeat. deadbeats get evicted, dear. deadbeats live with their brother. somebody's gotta tell ya the truth.
now for you, go out and get a job yesterday. every person can find a job if they really want one. quit relying on mom and her home-cook'n. it's time to be an adult now. your guy obviously hasn't gotten the memo yet about his job situation. and as a sidenote, i don't know anybody without a phone. what's with that? his credit shot to crap, too? thought so.
here's exactly what i'd do if it happened exactly as you have stated. you want to know what a real man does...here's what a real man who loves his sweetheart does. immediately, i get a job anywhere. you can get a job same day if you put your pride on the shelf. both of you do it. then i pack up my "family", get the cheapest studio i can afford, move in within one day's time. no living with mom. no living with bro. you're a team. you handle adversity together. you don't run away and become a burden on someone else.
You're "lost and confused" no more. What you do with this information is your choice. Continue on relying on his timetable, and you'll get what you deserve. Stand up straight and tall, take control of your life, you'll make it. Your confusion makes perfect sense to me. Why won't he call me? I get it! At least you're smart enough to put into words that this isn't normal under the circumstances. It's tough to hear...your friends won't say it to you. That's why this forum is so eye-opening. Guys like me have seen it all. Harsh, in your face intervention is my specialty...why? I can't stand it when women settle. No need for it. When guys act badly...take it as a strong indication that they don't have what it takes to be your guy. Life is happier when you're in control, trust me on that.